Due to sociocultural norms, it’s still widely accepted for men to initiate and lead conversations. However, engaging in meaningful dialogue can be challenging when only one party is actively participating. Additionally, it can be tough to think of questions to ask a guy when you’re in the moment and good ideas seem to disappear. To assist you in these challenging moments, we have compiled a list of questions covering a variety of topics.
These questions are excellent because they encourage detailed responses, not merely a simple “yes” or “no.” This approach ensures you have something to continue the conversation with. Furthermore, the answers you receive will provide deeper insights into the person’s ambitions, values, interests, and perspectives on life.
Questions About Interests and Preferences
These will help you find out what he’s passionate about and how he spends his free time.
- What social media pages or messaging channels are you subscribed to?
- What are your favorite memes?
- What does a “good day” mean to you? What would it look like?
- What does your dream vacation look like?
- Have you ever been obsessed with a celebrity? Who was it?
- When you’re in a bad mood, what can improve it?
- Do you like to plan things or act spontaneously?
- How many foreign languages do you know?
- What is the most impressive book you’ve read recently? Why?
- What movie/book/game would you recommend to everyone?
- Can you tell a dumb joke that always makes you laugh, even though you’re embarrassed by it?
- What movie do you watch when you’re feeling down?
- If you could only keep five apps on your phone, which would you choose?
- What do you know so well that you could teach it?
- Do you sing in the shower? If yes, what songs?
Questions About Family and Relationships
Asking about romantic relationships can be awkward and unproductive. Instead, more abstract questions can reveal much about how a person interacts with others.
- Do you have any brothers or sisters, or are you an only child?
- Are there any traditions in your family?
- Do you have a good relationship with your parents?
- What do you argue about most with your parents?
- What’s the best advice you’ve received from your parents or grandparents?
- Which movie couple’s relationship do you think is the coolest?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- What could you not forgive in a girl?
- What’s the most memorable compliment you’ve ever received?
- What does love mean to you?
- What qualities do you look for in a girl?
- When you introduce a new person to your friends, what story do they usually tell about you?
Questions About the Past
The past has shaped the person he is today. It’s interesting to find out how this process occurred.
- Did you enjoy going to school? Why or why not?
- What’s the most interesting gift you’ve ever received or given?
- What was your first job?
- Tell me about the most interesting places you’ve visited.
- Recall the longest period you’ve stayed awake. Why were you up?
- Which day from your life would you like to relive?
- What advice would you give to your younger self if you could?
- What did you want to be when you were a child?
Questions for Reflection
The answers to these somewhat abstract questions can help you understand his goals, values, priorities, and other interesting aspects.
- If you were a character in a movie or book, who would you be?
- What superpower would you like to have?
- Do you think there are forbidden topics for humor, or is it okay to joke about everything?
- If you had to leave for a long time with just one suitcase, what would you take besides the obvious?
- Where and how would you like to live in 5-10 years?
- If you could be anywhere right now, where would that be?
- If the world were ending in a week, how would you spend the last seven days?
- If you became invisible, what would you do first?
- If you inherited a billion dollars, what would happen next?
- If you could ban something that is currently legal, what would it be?
- What would you do if you didn’t have to earn a living?
- If a movie were made about your life, what genre would it be?
- What motivates you to get up in the morning, even when you’re out of energy?
- If you could only eat one dish for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- What animal would you like to be?